5 definite signs you are dealing with a narcissist and it's impact on you 

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1. They will confuse you with their sometimes good and most times ugly behavior 

A narcissist around you will may be initially or sometimes at some point make you feel good, say nice things about you, show appreciation towards you. And then you would witness what their default feelings are for you. These include lots of insults, making you feel little, ignoring you and praising you and comparing you with others. They would make you feel like you don't deserve anything, as though you are a disappointment. 

 

And this sometimes good and mostly bad behavior will keep you locked in abuse, you would doubt yourselves because you would think they liked you earlier or that they are good, is it really something that is so bad in you?

 

2. They will be 100% jealous and insecure of you

Make no mistake, a narcissist cannot see anyone getting more likes and attention than them. They invariably will be jealous or insecure of you when you get the attention, they will bring you down, they will suddenly behave odd and angry with you if someone praises you. They would mock you just to feel good.

The impact on you is this that you would start not wanting anyone to praise you in front of them. Or you would feel compelled to praise them to compensate in fear of their attacks. You would always feel little about your accomplishments and this would become a deep seated pattern in you.

 

3. They will isolate you from other's love and make you against other people in your life 

 

They want complete control and want you to be just having them in their life so that they can dominate you and also ensure They can use you to feel good about themselves....In this pursuit they would use many tactics to isolate you from others, either they would do drama that you get scared to give others time, or fill in your ears constantly about others and making each thing they do, as something that is bad towards you.

 

This cutting off from other loved ones makes you lonely, controlled and devoid of love and friendships that you deserve. This has the maximum negative impact on you and also your relationships ans their mental health

 

4. They systematically do everything toxic to you

They break your confidence.. they shame you in front of others and make you feel miserable about yourself. They make you self doubt yourself each second. They act unpredictable. They cannot see anything that you want happening in life. They would block it always.

 

This completely breaks your life patterns, your need, your happiness, your space. You just feel empty. You try to align your life to their purpose but there too it's their way. It can look like a empty, stuck position and one that depletes you daily.

 

5. They constantly gaslight you as they need you for this abuse 

The problem is that they can't let you go. They constantly manipulate, double speak, do things to make you confused and not be able to leave them. If somehow you find a way to make a boundary too, they attack you further and constantly run a battle that you didn't sign up for.

 

Getting out of narcissistic toxic abuse becomes tough because of this. And the cycle continues.

 

At IWill, a lot of the people in therapy are or have faced narcissistic abuse. This breaks them internally, they find difficulty in managing their emotions or feel good about selves.

It's important to seek therapy so that you can get out of this toxic abuse. So that you don't let the narcissist isolate you from other's or devalue you. It's important you pursue your dreams, achieve your goals, stans up, assert for self.

 

You need to feel completely confident.

You don't have to take toxic abuse. You should give it back.

You deserve your relationships and happiness.

You deserve wellbeing. 

 

Seek IWill therapy if you have been struggling with narcissist abuse. You don't have to suffer in silence or suffocate inside.

You deserve ro live on your own terms.