You are responsible for each other's wellbeing. You are responsible for each other's care, making you feel valued. You need to treat each Other special.
That's abuse for spouse.
But doing it the opposite way, letting a person who chose you as a companion to be felt like they mean nothing is really worst emotional abuse and yet so many people do it.
There is no need to bring your spouse down and compare them with your parent.
You are an adult and you can manage all your relationships.
But the one relationship that you chose for yourself is that of your spouse.
You can't just manage it, you have to let it thrive and thrive in it, offer security and happiness.
In IWill therapy many times we help couples to trust each other, to bring wellbeing to each other, to understand how its not insulting to other to give time to your own spouse. It is basic but so many families, emotions and mental health break because of it.