IWill blogs
I and my wife were in IWill therapy. Things were not going well between us for a long time. We had daily fights.
She was always complaining that she felt unneeded and her happiness had eroded in this marriage. And I felt like she was not the woman who knew how to be happy in a marriage.
So the therapist at IWill in one of the sessions said, no it isn’t like this for all women. And even if it was, would it be ok, if for one day I as a person try and experience what my wife says, she goes through and see how it impacts me?
So I said ok, for sure.
I was there in her home and she gave me no time and was busy with her job work or her family, and it looked as though she was avoiding me, it felt very strange and extremely hurtful. Even though I knew it was an exercise, it still felt odd.
Just like maybe I do and people in my family, she compared me randomly to others.Like how she loves her father the most and no one else as much as her father cared for her, no one did, how she feels her brother does so well in life. Even when things weren’t directed at me, they still made me feel very hollow and numb. Comparison when I was on the receiving end was pretty hurtful! And this was just for a few moments.
A flashback happened as to how this has been the norm for my wife in my home. Things like my mom cooks best, she is my first woman, someone else’s daughter in law never leaves her in laws home and so on, these were daily conversations and they now looked very draining, since I had experienced a glimpse of it!