I too need a pause button as a man to focus on my healing. I have just been running  as a MAN

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You are a man. You must earn the money we need.

You are a man. You cannot be sad even if you lose your parent. You need to protect and take care of everyone else.

You are earning less than other men in family. They are doing so well. They are so talented.

You are a man. You must listen to our pain.

You are a man. You need to take care of everyone

You are a man. How can you take a break!
You are a man! Don't be weak!

 

This is what I have heard all my life and more so when I started earning and as I grew up.

I lost my father early on and since then I have been expected to take care of everyone. I didn't get the time or opportunity to grieve.

I have been constantly compared with other men in family and made to feel like I am not enough! 

I tried taking break but everyone mocked me and somehow made me feel like a selfish person to even think like this..

 

But NO MATTER how others saw it, I was breaking!
I would feel empty!
I would cry in the night... I would get aggressive and get thoughts to end this all!
I would feel used and completely unloved.

I wanted to escape...

 

I joined IWill therapy. I was diagnosed with severe depression.

My therapist at IWill helped me appreciate my inherent value. She helped me see that I was enough as a person.

She helped me to learn to set my boundaries as a man, to focus on self-care, to pamper myself! 

She helped me to learn to take pauses as I needed.

She helped me learn to focus on things I like...

 

I am a man and I have the right to pause!
I am a man and I have the right to set a boundary!
I am a man and I too am deserving of appreciation!

I am a man and I too need to be understood

Aniruddh Verma

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