Why did you come late? It means you don't care for your partner?
Why did you ask her to dress up in a certain colour..it means you are a control freak?
Why did you ask her to go out with your friends. It means you are trying to make her distant from her family and friends
Why did you have a disagreement with her or tell her what you didn't like? You definitely are trying to control her snd bringing unhappiness to her. That's quarrelsome behavior
So i said, what do you mean by this?
You are drawing conclusions on small things and do you say this to my wife too??
This is so unfair. It can make things worse.
To this the IWill therapist replied, exactly this will make things not only worse but far more complicated if i say any of this to your wife and you are right, these things that I just said are outright strange conclusions drawn out from normal things between husband and wife.
2..why does she need private time with you.. does she think she is more important to you than us.
6. She always has her own opinions..she will never gel in this family
What is she supposed to do, if she is married to you?
I said these things today to you, to help you see the basis of problems between you is so faulty. It's other's opinions and conclusions and its toxic that an independent relationship between you two is not being developed.
And this session for me was an eye opener. I was constantly forming opinions on my wife basis other's judgements and this is what I needed to stop.
Today no one can come between us. We are strong. I don't get manipulated nor do I let others dominate who and what my wife should be and what my relationship should be with her.
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