I wasn’t overdramatic, I am hypersensitive. The pain I feel is real. The love I give is real!

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The things said about me 

You are always crying. I am busy and you are not the only woman alone!

You stop me from going out with friends, and family. You want to isolate me from people I love!

So what I didn’t talk to you last night after the fight. You made it look like I had done a blunder. I am tired of you

You overreact to my family. You feel they ignore you. You feel they pass remarks at you. You keep imagining!

You are so dramatic!
 

This was my husband blaming me and labeling me for being over dramatic! When in reality, it was so painful, what I was going through. My heart was breaking in a million pieces. I felt completely lost and I would cry all day.

 

What was my reality

In reality, I wanted to stop, I wanted to feel happy. I wanted this pain to end. But it wouldn’t

It would feel like someone is just giving me wounds and then worsening it over and over by inflicting more pain!

I didn’t know what to do. I was further hurt that my husband took me so casually and blamed me for hurting and YET I WOULD KEEP MY SELF-RESPECT AT SIDE AND GO BACK TO HIM, CRY TO HIM.

I was so pained with myself too. I wanted to not exist.

 

Then I heard about IWill therapy through a blog I read on Facebook and I booked sessions as I needed help!
 

Understanding myself better

It was here at IWill therapy that after listening to me, and empathizing with me, my therapist recognized that I am a hypersensitive person, a person who loves a lot, who cannot hurt anyone, who is sensitive to everyone’s emotions, can read non-verbal cues, can understand intention behind sarcastic words!

She helped me see that I was hurting and yes I need to manage my hypersensitivity to manage my own health, to not let my career be affected like it was getting affected, to not leave my food, and loose sleep and days to this pain and that she would work with me on this but I was hurting too, things in my life needed change too and that wasn’t my fault!

She worked with me to help sort my emotional space and then after 5-6 sessions when

I felt more in control,

My husband understanding ME better and my pain

She recommended couple therapy for both me and my husband together as pain in my life currently, all the emotional hurt was stemming from lack of love in our relationship!
 

My husband first denied but then with my assertive communication, he agreed.

It was in therapy at IWill that my therapist helped him see how I wasn’t dramatic!

She once in one of sessions, said to him “But I would like to listen to your wife, I think she really talks sense”

To this my husband got irritated and said this is bias

And then IWill therapist said yes this is bias and its not you being dramatic similarly when in one home, you or anyone else constantly compares your wife to others and  then say others are better on things directly or indirectly, its hurtful, its painful and its not her drama to feel that pain!

She also then helped him see that what if your wife goes each weekend out with her friends while you are alone in her home. How would it feel? How would it feel if she is in room alone sitting?

How would it feel if no one talks to you in her family? And when they talk, its usually on what you do wrong and what you should be doing?

 

This is not drama. Yes she is sensitive but the pain is real., She feels it . Due to her sensitive side, she cares more when you are unwell, she loves you more. She waits for you. She laughs with you, that side is beautiful because of it!

As sessions happened, my husband could appreciate my love for him and he started spending more time with me, accepting change in his life of being a husband and not seeing me as a drain on his time but as his life!

Therapy at IWill really helped me

It gave me my confidence back!
It helped me stand up for myself!
It helped my husband see how things were wrong and I was crying because there was real pain and also helped him appreciate my sensitive side and its value!
 

Being sensitive is not being dramatic. We face a lot of hurt and that shows. We read signs and behaviors meant to unsettles us and that pain shows

Shikha Gulleria

Seek therapy at IWill if you could relate to signs shared. You don't have to go anywhere just book sessions recommended to you and invest in your peace, happiness and inner healing