I will not ignore my wife to Please my Family. That is so wrong!

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When people said that now you won't be a good son because you have a wife, I would do everything to prove otherwise.

I would talk more to my parents, ignoring my wife, and ignoring her emotional needs to spend time with friends and family members.

I would be out working late at night to show that NOTHING IN MY LIFE CHANGED!

When in reality, I should have had things changed in my life.  If my wife is there, I SHOULD BE SPENDING TIME WITH HER AND NOT OUT WITH FRIENDS ANYMORE, BECAUSE PRECISELY I HAVE A WIFE. 

When in reality. I should have taken care of my wife, over and above my family too because I have someone who is JUST ENTIRELY MY RESPONSIBILITY, and being with her doesn't make me a bad son!

I would praise my mother, and spend time with my family, ignoring her, to make sure I was seen as a good and dedicated son.

When in reality I should have spent it on my wife, who was my own responsibility, and praised her as I had married her.

I would never come in between when people were making her feel uncomfortable at my home, by discussing her habits or making remarks that appeared HARMLESS but were HURTFUL.

When in reality, I should have ensured she gets the RESPECT in my home, that if someone makes her feel uncomfortable, I talk to them and make sure that they see HER as a family, as a part of me.

I would never accompany her to her family or friends while I expected her to be there for events, I too wasn't a part of.

When in reality, I should have been part of her family as she was part of mine and in my family, I should have ensured that she was welcome or that she was accompanying me. 

I was ignoring my wife to please others,

I was breaking our relationship and the only thing it was doing was making her depressed, making me too empty and UNCONSCIOUSLY GUILTY OF MY ACTIONS, my heart internally craved to be RIGHT WITH HER but the baggage would suppress that feeling!

When her pain and depression were at their peak, she started IWill THERAPY ONLINE.

First, she healed herself, and then she helped me JOIN COUPLE THERAPY, INITIALLY OF WHICH I WAS NOT SURE BUT EVENTUALLY, I AM glad I joined.

It was in therapy that I realized THAT I HAD TO CHANGE WITH MY NEW ROLE.

OVERNIGHT MY WIFE'S LIFE WAS COMPLETELY CHANGED AROUND ME. The least I could do WAS ACKNOWLEDGE THIS AND CHANGE MINE AROUND HER! 

It was in IWill therapy that I realised that I just became a BAD HUSBAND by ignoring my wife. This has got nothing to do with BEING A GOOD SON! 

It was here that I realized that my happiness was also in being happy with her. 

This life where I WAS MARRIED AND she was crying and I came home and was in a stressful situation, actually would have been so happy, if I and my wife were LOVING EACH OTHER. 

The happiness that was now in my store, I was denying it and THIS REALISATION HELPED ME A LOT! 

 

I now love my wife with all my heart. The comments that I have changed sound like music to me because I HAVE CHANGED FOR GOOD.

I dont let anyone make my wife feel less just because she is her own person!
I could have never been happier! 

I am GLAD I love my wife and I am glad for all the happiness we are receiving now

Arun Singh 

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