Its not fair at all to be pampered only during pregnancy & forgotten I exist once I became a MOTHER

Ashima Sharma

 

How was I pampered before birth and forgotten after delivery

First make Aarti her morning breakfast and ensure everything she needs is on the menu To  Why does Aarti need so much time for herself. Her baby is hungry. What is she doing

Ensuring the house revolves around me when I was pregnant  To completely forgetting that i existed in this home

From always making sure my husband is with me  To making sure I do all baby chores alone and stopping him from doing baby duties

From trying to care about what I liked to even forgetting that i will need my baby

From telling me that as a mom I am most important, to telling me all the time that the baby is like father and his family

From telling me ill be an excellent mother to making me feel every step that i did was wrong for my baby I was shocked to see how much my husband's family changed once I delivered the baby 

 

I was shocked to see the love fade away

They all made me feel like I was just a womb for them.

The change in their behavior completely broke me. I was depressed beyond words.

I would cry. Chores for the baby would become difficult and my whole life looked wasted to me! 

I would feel unloved, completely unwell, and broken!  

I joined IWill therapy as I knew it could be postpartum depression that I may be suffering from.

My therapist at iwill helped me see my value. She helped me focus on positive things that were said for me, she helped me see how I had a career that I could and should restart. She helped me prioritize my self care 

She helped me learn to get past depression. She would work with me and help me see all the good things in me...  I would write journals to appreciate all that I had achieved in my life and how was I good enough...

She also helped me assert and stand for my relationship with my baby... If someone made me feel like my baby wasn't mine and I had no right on my baby, I would give ASSERT!

She also helped me communicate and share assertively things that I didn't like...

My husband is also joining a few sessions as my IWill therapist felt he needed to understand my pain... 

I am glad as a young mother I started therapy.

It's very painful how easily people forget what a mother goes through and the care she needs...

Pampering during pregnancy is good but aftercare and love that a young mother should receive is the most important! And not receiving that broke me! 

Ashima Sharma

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