I couldn’t be crying over their fault! Yes bad had happened to me, but my blaming myself, crying, leaving my work, isolated from people who loved me, I was engaging in SELF HARM!
Self-harm in the fake belief that it will have impact on people and turn them
Kinder towards me! The therapist helped me see that this would not even make them realize!
Next my husband joined therapy too on my insistence! It was in therapy that at least he could see,
“Not he, I was separated from my family!
Not they, I was being isolated and at a time when I needed my husband the most!
Not being disrespectful, I was just trying to have my place as a family member while everyone else wanted me to be a yes educated maid or just a less human being!
Not they, I was being at a serious risk of being left alone and it was not ok for a wife to be treated in this way!
My husband understood slowly that he had been ignoring me for his family, something that was not just wrong, it was emotionally abusive!