My husband realised that ignoring a spouse can be so painful

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Imagine if she is sitting with her family and She ignores you, keeps talking to them, expects you to serve them, just be there, without feeling engaged.

How would it feel!

Imagine she comes from work and just sleeps and doesn't acknowledge your presence and when you confront her, she says work is her priority and you can't feel bad about it how would it feel.

Imagine you ask her to do something and she never does it and then when you have to remind again and again, you become the one nagging! Imagine you ask her to spend some time with you but she says before marriage too, weekend was for her friends and that won't change. Imagine if she says that you overreact, dramatise, expect unnecessary from her even when you both are married.

Imagine if all of this happens to you when you are away from your family, your friends are not around and your work is there but even that is not a priority for anyone in your wife's housw

 How would it feel Arnav?

And to this question of our IWill therapist over video call, Arnav said, well it will hurt but i am not doing any of these things

To this IWill therapist said, I understand you may think you are not doing any of this but this is what is happening. Your wife is alone in your home and lonely! You are busy in your work and you have most of the times said to her that you have friends and that you have had many trips where your friends and you did go, but she was alone

In your home, you all love and laugh and she is lonely and she is crying for your love

She has been depressed, deprived of your love and has been ignored and this is a fact

Now we can help change this because she is your wife and she deserves your love and your time and she deserves care from you and attention from you

She deserves to be center of your life as she is your life partner and she will be there for you till the end of time

She deserves to be loved by you

 This was my IWill therapist and this was our 5th couple session online

Arnav started changing a lot with therapy and started seeing how much his ignorance was real and had impacted me

I had become so depressed with all the ignorance, with his family trying to control him, and trying to have their way all the time, with his friends, with everyone else getting his attention and love not me