My wife was attacked at my home for no reason.  I won’t allow this anymore

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You didn’t ask her how her health was. You straight away attacked her why did she come late and why did she not come?

This is really not ok; especially when you know she was unwell!

Yes, she didn’t take a leave because her office is important. Her career is important. Why is she attacked for her basics? Why should she be treated differently? 

These remarks on her family; on her parents and the indirect suggestion that they have less status, are so bad... her parents have bigger status than anyone... they are the best people I have seen! 

 

Why should she be asked to not sit with me... why should be asked to get up and go and sit with “women”. She will sit wherever she wants!

She didn’t come because you all attack her mercilessly, you blame her for my actions, you blame her for having career dreams for herself, you blame her for loving me!! That’s why she doesn’t come and be with you, it’s very toxic!!

Why do you always say negative things to her? Why do you always complain or belittle her? 

 

This was me Rajiv finally standing up for my wife, not letting anyone attack her and force her to be present in a toxic environment at her expense!

We had suffered through a very rough patch. I always thought that my wife didn’t adjust enough or that she is too sensitive! 

I would say that I can’t speak against my family and that she should not expect me to get in between their "problems", that I would always remain NEUTRAL and rather expect my wife to change! 

 

But she was breaking. She was genuinely not the same person anymore. She would cry, not sleep, feel miserable, always be gazing and sitting... Her mental health was completely sacrificed. 

I joined IWill Therapy. The therapist at IWill helped me see and notice, that my wife was always spoken to sarcastically! She was always made to feel less! Always criticized for even good things that she did!

She was always made awkward, always everyone wanted that she should keep saying sorry! She was made to feel that she was less and that somehow I and my family were superior. 

 

In therapy the more I got closer to my wife, and the more impartially and non judgementally I noted, the more this became clear!!! I decided not to let my wife cry even a day more; not let her live in depression, denial, and hurt! 

 

She won’t be attacked for no reason! 

She has not done any sin marrying me! She owes no one. 

No one has done any favor to her. No one should 

She won’t be treated less!

She won’t tolerate this toxicity! 

My wife is my family too and her respect is my respect too! She is not here for attacks. She puts up with so much just for me. Because she wants to be with me, have me still in her life and I would never forget this now, no more attacks on her! I will not tolerate