People closest to you who break your self esteem with their toxicity and jealousy cause worst pain

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She had a great promotion at work. 

When she came home and she told this, no one even reacted, they didn't even get the ability to say a few words. Discussion went on to someone else and how they are so good.

She kept looking shocked, hurt and dismissed.  And yet she recalled that these are the same people she loves and shares her life with. 

He came home and shared how he learned a new skill in one day 

Someone reminded of his past faults and how he learns and then gets into trouble. Someone else made a snide remark on his other talents. He was aghast to see how nothing he does is ever appreciated.

She was revered by everyone else. She worked so much. She did so much.

Yet her husband would tell her how the bathroom had so much water, how she is careless with her things, how she sleeps so much, how she left the bottles open.

Everything, every small little place where she could get frightened and constantly her brain in check mode, he alerted but never did he once appreciated of what all she did, the good, the job, the care of the kids.

And what was worse, he then pretended to love her a lot , doing all this and then saying how much he loves her. And may be he did in his own definition but he broke many parts of her. 

She was always caring, always going the extra mile

But she would always be ignored, always be never appreciated on time, her energy made people around her jealous, even her closest. She felt chronically depressed and sad

 

This is the story of many people who not in big things, in small little ways by denial of love, feel alienated, feel totally confused, restless and demotivated in life. 

The big things when they happen, people can get away from them. but the small things, they break a person on a daily basis and especially since they come from people who matter, they break even further.

This comes from a space of jealousy, of control, of not giving the power of happiness to other person.

Sometimes people doing this are unaware of how their behavior impacts others, it could have been shaped by their people, their family dynamics and other times, its pure jealousy.

 

What is needed here for the person suffering to look and build internal self-esteem.

Its important to continue doing the work that gives you power, of being who you are, of also having a social circle that uplifts you, makes you feel validated.

You also need to have your boundaries, of saying the right thing, of communicating what you don't like and in a way that is direct and affirmative. 

Therapy at IWill really helps as it can help you come out of the pain you are in, the small remarks daily over the years that have broken you, and killed your potential, with therapy these can be undone and you can emerge to do the great things in life you are meant to do.

Also couple therapy at IWill is designed to help spouses realise the impact of their small words, their painful dismissal of the good in their partners for whatever reasons, breaks a person and the relationship.

In therapy at IWill we have helped many partners get t =o healthy relationship sof mutual respect, partnership and love.

it is the most painful to have someone closest to you break your self esteem on a daily basis. Yet the reality is you need to stand up to it and above it and excel and do things in life that make you happy and make your life the way you want it to be. 

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