Respect of a wife in in-laws place is only husband's responsibility

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Imagine if you are at your wife's home, and no one there respects your working time, they expect you to leave everything and do things that they need, and YOUR WIFE doesn't  do anything to stop this even when these are his family members, how would it feel?

Imagine if there are people comparing you or making you feel less in his family, always give you mixed remarks, or saying you are not enough and your wife doesn't do anything to stop it, rather sometimes tells you that you are not doing enough for her family, how would it feel?

Imagine if you want to spend time with your wife but her family always blocks it in the name of they being first, and she being her daughter, and she ignoring you rather than spending time with you as your wife, how would it feel.

Imagine that people at her home never give priority to your wishes, what you wish to eat, speak or feel and imagine you living there now as your permanent home and what if your wife doesn't stand up for you and doesn't take care of your needs. How would you feel?

Who if not you is responsible for your wife's happiness and place in your life. Who if not you is responsible for your wife's happiness in your home? That is your ppaxe

You are married to her. She is there just for this relationship. You cannot say that it's between your family and her.

There was no reason for them to be with her if not with you. She is your family.. her happiness is your complete and total responsibility

And my husband agreed and started understanding.

This was our IWill therapist and we were in couple therapy online with her.

And it was here that my husband could see my pain, he could see that I was being treated so poorly, something I didn't deserve at all. Infact all that i deserved was very opposite of this. She helped him see that I was his responsibility.

He changed and started standing up for me, spending time with me, praising me, loving me and confronting others.

From days when I was constantly compared on the kind of food I made to how much I did for my in-laws vs other daughter in laws or their expectations to my husband ensuring he praises me and he asking others what do they do for me as their daughter-in-law.

From me being questioned and not given space for my work to my husband standing up for my right for growth and happiness.

From the time that my husband ignored me for others to now him ensuring he makes all the time for me asking for his right as my spouse, we have come a long way.

I am glad therapy at IWill took me out of the deep depression and helped my husband also see what was his role.

The responsibility of respect in laws home is totally of the husband !

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