IWill blogs
The third is the so-called power of saving, which the person with drama tendencies gives to their loved ones. "It's only you who care for me or can care for me". "I have done so much for you". "I am so looking up to you in my life". Things and themes like these that the person with a toxic personality keeps creating, make the loved one/s feel like they are responsible for the person creating drama, and it's almost like their job to protect their interest, to be with them, EVEN when this comes at their own expense.
Also, the drama person wants everyone to give them the maximum time thereby reducing bonds between others. They may selectively let a few people bond with each other but the idea is the shared love or shared allegiance to the dramatic person.
In IWill therapy, step by step a person can see what all they have lost will continue to lose, how much the family has suffered because of this dramatic behavior
But most importantly, the therapist will help you step by step break this drama-driven bond that you or your loved one and you are a part of. The idea is to start saying No, cutting time to drama, taking some heat and some pressure, and not being GUILT trapped and slowly come out of it. The therapist will help you first strengthen your bonds with others, assert in a way that is nonthreatening initially for your family member prone to manipulation, and slowly taking your space up.