Sometimes one who is reacting is actually the victim one who is reacting is actually the victim 

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Oh she cries a lot. Such a drama she is. Always seeking attention.

Or could it that she cries a lot because she is lonely, she is an environment where people only expect from her things that please them and give no love in return.

Oh she is always complaining of how no one understands her. She is complaining that I don't do enough for her..she is always nagging 

 

Or it could be that she is really feeling ignored. She could be struggling with pain of feeling loveless, of waiting endlessly for love and belonging.

 

Oh he is so rude these days. He doesn't meet anyone. He cancels all plans..he doesn't want to socialise. He is becoming so difficult 

Or it could be that he is dealing with an emotional issue. He could be going through a lot emotionally....it could be that he is scared of attacks, of comparisons, of sarcasm. It could also be that he is dealing with depression that can cause irritability, low mood and social withdrawal.

Oh she doesn't sit with them, she ignores the group, she is always wanting to go to her parents. She is not a good daughter in law or wife.

Or it could be that no one treats her well. It could be that she feels secondary and wants to be with her family to feel special, needed and herself again.

 

Oh she always makes everyone nervous. On small things she creates alarm

 

Often people who are going through silent and toxic abuse, people going through depression and anxiety disorders, people who are living in environments where no one cares for them, emotional reactions are a sign of that hurt. 

 

Worst is that people rather than understanding what is going on with them, giving them love and healing them, blame them further, isolate them further.. This breaks them further, causes more hopelessness and they bottle up their emotions more.

At IWill therapy, we help 1000's of people dealing with emotional isolation, emotional pain and help them find their strength, stand up to the situation, prioritise self and assert. 

We also help their loved ones understand that rather than attacking them, or ignoring them, they should understand what's really happening and support their loved one.

Many times a person avoids people, cries, complains a lot.

But rather than seeing them as wrong, it's important to see what has changed around them.