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IWill 2023-01-27 01:34 - 6 minute read

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The worst thing is that as a wife I have to fight and struggle for husband's attention who ignores me to please others 

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I never thought that the man who I would be trusting rest of my life with, the man who I will love more than anything would ignore me and deprive me so much of love just to please others wrongly.

When I got married, my husband changed. It was because of people around ofcourse who left no opportunity to be sarcastic to him whenever he would give me time. 

If he spoke to me, he would be in 5 mins interrupted by someone who would remember some work he had to do.

If he bought me a gift, his family would give him such cold vibes that it would get awkward for me.

If he made a plan with me, he would be openly told that he was changing now and forgetting his loved ones.

All day long, I would be passed remarks on how much my husband loves his family, how in their family, it's always the birth family first.

 

And it was so toxic. It would trouble and empty me so much. 

 

But worst happened when my husband started changing drastically under this pressure.

 

He would now not talk to me in front of others.

He would to show his indifference to his family, would move out with friends while I would be stuck all day wondering all alone, what had become of my life.

He would give his family more attention, always tried to please them, and would ignore me to accomplish this.

 

It almost started feel like I was just a tool for everyone to just satisfy their own agendas and egos.

I felt heartbroken but also scared for my future..

I felt abandoned and stuck.

 

Whole day I would be having pent up pain and anger issues. I would cry and wonder how less was my husband's love for me. It changed so easily.... 

 

I joined IWill Therapy to find someone to talk to, to find a way to just go through each day as the pain had become unbearable...

It was in therapy first that my iwill therapist helped me just speak everything out, she coached me and helped me to feel less bad with all that was happening by putting it in perspective how this was coming from space of insecurity and jealousy.

 

She helped me learn to assert and speak out against things that were toxic, on attacks that i didn't deserve.

She also helped me to find a way to feel secure and comfortable with myself. I didn't need to attack my self esteem because of my husband's behavior or lack of attention for me.

 

When I started feeling somewhat in control, I communicated with my husband that it will not go on like this, that I didn't marry him to be ignored and be waiting for attention and be made to feel secondary all the time. I wasn't up for it.

He joined Couple therapy at IWill with me to resolve this and in therapy, our therapist helped him see how much was his ignorance problematic, how his ignorance was breaking our bond.

 

Therapist helped him see that i needed him the most, I had been in a new relationship, I needed sense of security, I needed love to feel at home, not the other way around. She also helped him understand the concept of couple dynamics and how it was so important for us to invest time, love and maximum trust in each other.

She helped him see that if it was he who was in my house and treated with complete indifference and lack of affection, how would he feel.

Things have started to change a lot in therapy. The ability to directly talk and listen to each other have resolved some of the differences we had. 

 

My husband has stopped ignoring me and making me feel empty. He gives me time and even stands up when someone wants him to ignore me.

But the pain that I went through was so unneeded. I never deserved what I have been through.

Why is a wife subjected to this pain?

Why is a wife who should be most important is treated like she doesn't even exist?

It's heartbreaking, damaging and causes long term emotional issues, trust issues..... I suffered it all. Thanks to IWill for making me come out of this emotional space. But it's an irony that women are pushed in this dark space when what they deserved was love.

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