What to do when you feel that no matter what you try, life just doesn't get better

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What to do when you feel that no matter what you try, life is just not changing

Many times in life, a time comes when you feel completely stuck

 The decisions that you took with absolute trust and faith and a lot of hope caused you the deepest pain and anxiety

 It could be a job that you so wanted, and once you get the job, neither the work nor the environment feels safe

It could be a marriage where you were the happiest and had dreams of the happiest couple at home but after marriage, you feel invisible and completely ignored, and unseen. You feel unloved, and you feel isolated

It could be shifting in a new country with a lot of hope and zeal, but then feeling stuck in a new life, and homesickness taking over

 It could be losing a loved one.

It could be feeling stuck due to health issues, or stuck in a family where no one understands you

It could be having your aims and ambitions unfulfilled, and getting stuck in the inability to make changes

Once a person feels stuck, unhappiness and inability to make changes kick in. Emotional pain can deepen. The feeling of helplessness with life situations can trigger a negative spiral of sadness, painful negative thoughts, lack of motivation, and complete inability, at times, to take further consistent action.

It can also lead to personality changes, whether permanent or temporary, and avoidance or social withdrawal

 If you can relate to these situations and the thoughts, it's important to know that you are not alone

 And that this can be changed

Seeking therapy is important

 Many people in similar situations start therapy at IWill. The therapist at IWill, step by step, helps the person first share all their pain and let the emotions find a safe space to be shared and discussed

Then, through therapy, the therapist enables the person to make small, concrete changes in day-to-day life, proactively working on assumptions and thoughts about self to bring about evident change.

The therapist also enables a person to have social integration, helps motivate them to take the right steps to change the situation.

 Therapy at IWill has transformed many people's lives by helping them resolve the stuck situation in their careers, build deeper and more resilient self-concept, and have changes in their marriages for happiness and a nurturing environment

 Also, it's important to remind yourself that no matter how many years you have been stuck, one moment and a day have the potential to change everything for good. So it's important to continue to try, albeit taking help in making some different choices is a good idea

You also need to speak and spend time with people who value you and cherish you, and make you feel deserving and loved, no matter what

Try and have strong boundaries with people who bring you down and negatively reinforce anything that the situation might be making you feel

 It's important to completely believe that you will be happy. That this inertia and shock-like pain will pass, things will change

Seek therapy at iwill if you feel stuck and pain is taking over

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