A daughter in law deserves both love and respect! It’s not a one-way relationship

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Your wife should follow the rules of this house!

No, she doesn’t need to do that alone, she is an individual and she deserves to be a family!

Anyways are rules of the house only applicable to daughter-in-law?

Are rules of house so different only for her, where she is expected to sacrifice, not dream, always be weak, always be at mercy of others and just pretend to be less all the time!!! What kind of rules are these and I won’t follow them.! 

 

A daughter in law is there to serve 

No, she is there for love. Love and companion of her spouse... she didn’t sign up to be a maid. Just like a mother cares out of love, a wife too does the same... but that’s only when her role is accepted and she gets love and attention! 

A daughter-in-law should prove herself first!

No she doesn’t have to prove herself. Do you prove your worth to your family members? You rather support them. Stand with them. Allow them to feel happy!

A daughter-in-law is no different!

A daughter-in-law should not try to steal the son!

No in fact, people should not stop a daughter in law from spending time with her husband. She has the complete right. Just because she spends time with her husband and he loves her back, doesn’t mean he is stolen, only means he is taken as a husband! Which he certainly should! 

 

A daughter in law should think about herself after the needs of her family

 

If a person doesn’t think about themselves, they would be unhappy. And how hypocritical it is... you want someone to think first for you, which means to you, your happiness and ego is everything while in the same time you won’t your daughter in law to ignore herself... this is not how it works... what is right for you, is also right for her 

 

A daughter in law doesn’t and shouldn’t be attached to her family now 

If a woman can so easily desert and forget her own family, how do you expect her to love you from the heart... while you don’t want your son to even express some empathy, you want the woman to become all alone, isolated, and dependent on you to the point that she breaks! This is not ok! 

A daughter-in-law’s opinions should be that what her Husband wants!!

Best teams are those where one stops a person from doing wrong and another person does the same.. that’s the power of two people... a daughter-in-law has every right and also needs to have her own opinions. She is not here to be depressed or emotionally over... she is here to be a partner and herself, grow more rather than become invisible!

 

I, Sunaina singh , an MBBS doctor have faced all this and more as a wife... it was so disheartening to be treated like, no matter what your education or your dreams, you are a daughter in law, a wife and so you are naturally less , you have to accept lower position! This would break me.. I would be angry with my spouse and yet he would be largely silent and scared to take a stand... he was son of a single mother and so he had his issues..

 

I started getting so angry, depressed. I had beloved and stood up for equality all my life and now I was facing this...

 

IWill therapy sessions helped me a lot. I could clear up my thoughts, gain assertion, not be so broken and voiceless, not be so meek and submissively tolerant... 

 

Today I am not depressed. I speak for myself... and ensure that my place in this house is same as my husband ... that no one denies me love by proving I am outsider or deserving to be a slave rather than wife of the house!