My mother in law tries to always dominate my parenting and I feel broken

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You don’t feed your child properly... child won’t grow strong as his father... he would become weak as you!

Your work is so important. Always in office. The child needs a mother... when a woman becomes a mother, everything else becomes secondary... god knows how can you ignore your own child.

Let him play with me. I too need his time. He is my Dear darling grandson!

He is in fever because you let him play. You never care for your son.

Why do you try to explain him everything and not give things he like. He is my grandson. If you won’t give him things he like, I would. I wouldn’t let you deprive him.

I won’t let him go to your parent’s house. I can’t live without him.

Your wife doesn’t know how to raise kids. The kid is always searching for his mother. You keep playing with the kid....  it doesn’t look nice on fathers... this house is reverse only...


This was my mother-in-law constantly telling me I am not a good mother, making me ashamed of my choices, my parenting style, taking my son away from me often and even stopping my parents to spend time with him...

I had become so isolated, angry, and pained as a mother with things happening in my life... I wanted to actually die... sometimes I would think, why was I even here witnessing all this...

I wanted to stop this all but I was too depressed, too alone... I felt like I wasn't a good mother... I felt like I was really wrong maybe? Or that I wasn't understood... Whatever it was, I was tired of seeing myself as a bad mother... 

I was so depressed that I had to start therapy at IWill. It was in therapy that i saw myself as a person...

I wasn't just a mother, just a daughter-in-law... I was a full being in myself, I had the right to bring my child-like i wanted...

And this doesn't mean I couldn't be wrong... It only meant that I could be told with love where I was not so good and at other places, told where i was good too!

I had the right to be a mother. I had the right to be loved... I had the right to have independence..

 

She helped me gain confidence in me as a mother.

She helped me in taking stand for myself..

She helped me in asserting for myself...

I also started communicating with my husband openly on the problems that affected me...

It was not ok for anyone to tell me that I was a bad mother... It was not ok for me to be broken in my self-esteem.

I am glad I could stand tall to the narcissism.