People who only expect from you, use you and are never there for you, completely break you from inside. 

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What do they do?

They will always compare how much others are doing for them to get you to do a lot for them.

They will always ask for what they need and give you no options to not be available.

They will always expect you to be there for them emotionally.

They will come and offload and dump all their emotional challenges on you, give you no space to escape or say no and you would have to be there for them.

They will make you do everything for them but still will never give you credit for anything.

They will always praise other people only in front of you of how much they do things for them to put you in "your place".

 

What they don't do for you ?

When you are unwell, they are always busy with "unavoidable things", their own pressures, their own issues. 

When you need them emotionally, and tell something, later they will use that and other information they have to make you feel small. They will never comfort you.

When they do something for you, they will remind that on every occasion.. and make you feel little.

If they ever gave you any help in your tough time, they will make you feel small, even taunt you.

They will never be there for you emotionally. Rather they would always make it about them.. every problem that you have. They already would say how they have been through worst.

 

They would just make you feel worse about yourself and still have the audacity to come and Suck your time and energy for their needs. Once you don't need them, Suddenly they will come and talk more to show how they are there for you. They do this so that no fingers can be pointed at them.

 

 

How does it affect you ?

1. You feel used.

2. You feel its one sided.

3. You feel broken due to comparisons, pressure and abuse.

4. You lose confidence as rather than lifting you up, they put you down. 

5. You feel like escaping and avoiding them but in most cases it happens within families so that option you don't have.

6. You have pent up anger internally that keeps breaking you from within.

7. You really suffer losses because your time gets only to serve them and your mind gets depleted by them.

8. Your relationship with others around you will also get strained because of the baggage, projections that would happen to others 

 

What should be done?

First and foremost, you have to manage your mental health. Such experiences can scar a person mentally, make them very agitated, upset and hurt and it's best to seek IWill therapy, especially if it's been going for long, there is no escape, you feel more trapped and more and more insulted, isolated and humiliated.

Second, you need to learn assertion and help such people see what they do to you. It's not ok for anyone to see relationship as a one way street where their expectation is to always have you around but they don't want you to be there for you and worse that street is open for them to throw emotional dirt on you.

 

Third you need boundaries and you need to learn to prioritise self and say no.. let whoever does what for them, let those comparisons not affect you, build strength within yourself to have this boundary.

We know how much it can hurt, how much one would feel depleted And upset. How one feels when no one even cares for your pain but expect you to be at their service as though it's their right over you..don't let this behavior break you...

Fix your emotional health, get the strength needed and stand for self.

You will feel happy putting them in the place that they need to be, when it comes to your life. Download app, and start iwill therapy sessions today.

 

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